When we are optimistic, we are less likely to give up when faced with problems. We feel more in control, confident, and open to learning ways to problem solve. It is therefore paramount for us to be optimistic around children.
Look for the positives when you engage with children and monitor what you say and do to influence them.
Look at what doesn’t work for your child and treat it as an opportunity for learning. Explore your child’s thoughts and feelings with them. Plan and set achievable goals for better outcomes next time.
Monitor how your child sees situations. Do they view them positively, negatively, exaggerated, or feel victimised. Challenge any negativity and ‘all or nothing’ thinking. Teach flexibility and that their experiences are not personal. Situations or things can be changed and resolved.
We want children to talk to us so we can understand their thinking. We often believe our thoughts, when really, they are just a belief that isn’t necessarily true. When they share with us, we can help to change negative thoughts to more helpful and realistic ones that help them to move forward.
By remaining vocal with a positive view of what your child is doing and the world around them, you can help them to identify problems and their feelings towards solving problems rather than feeling stuck.
Top tips to assist your child to have a positive outlook
- Stay flexible, curious and make things happen
- Overcome hurdles rather than fall at them
- Remain calm and teach them that situations are temporary
- Work towards success
- Teach self-care and a mindset for success
- Watch language that either exaggerates or downplays experiences
- Highlight the positives and the learnings
- Be proactive
- Use affirmations
- Positive self-talk (I can do this)
- Focus on improving
- Build new skills
Act on intentions